young, wild and sexy: on finding gyaru in my late 20s

 Gyaru (ギャル or gal) has always been associated with youth.

Perhaps the most youthful gal substyle is kogyaru, a contraction of kōkōsei gyaru or high school gal. As the name implies, this style was almost exclusively worn by teenage girls and is denoted by scrunch socks draped over loafers, light hair, a tanned complexion, and a shortened uniform skirt. Originating in the 90s, it allowed free-spirited teens to assert their autonomy, finding a way to express themselves within the rigid confines of the Japanese school uniform. 


As is the perverse way of humanity, the substyle was ostensibly fetishized. These underaged girls became the sexual fantasies of men far too old to be involved with them. That is to say, pedophiles. There is no room for ambiguity here.


While kogyaru are not responsible for the deviant desires of older men, the ease and candor with which salarymen expressed their infatuation with high school girls went a long way to normalizing it. The sexual objectification of kogyaru became a prominent theme in men's magazines such as SPA!, Takarajima, and Friday as early as 1993. As a result, this absurd belief that high school-aged girls are not only "sexy" but are in their sexual prime has become ingrained in Japanese society, as evidenced by popular manga and anime.


My First Girlfriend Is a Gal (JapaneseはじめてのギャルHepburnHajimete no Gyaru, lit. "My First Gal")


As a woman, the message is all too clear: Youth is the be-all-end-all. High school is the prime of your life. 


This isn't only a Japanese issue. It's universal. 


As an American on Tiktok, I was inundated with video after video of young women from all sorts of cultural backgrounds teaching each other how to avoid "premature" wrinkles by not expressing emotion and advising girls as young as 13 (!!!!!) to invest in a variety of expensive creams and lotions to ensure they age gracefully.... whatever the hell that means.


We're mortal beings; aging is as inevitable as death and taxes. It's not something you can outwit or beat. The game is rigged, and we're guaranteed to lose. 


Why play? 


There is an ingrained belief in most societies that a woman's value is dependent on her youth and beauty. In colloquial conversation, youth is often interchangeable with beauty; rather, beauty cannot exist without youth. 


In her essay "Dogs, Cats, and Dancers: Thoughts about Beauty," American author Ursula K. Le Guin sums it up well: "One rule of the game, in most times and places, is that it's the young who are beautiful. The beauty ideal is always a youthful one."


As women, we're instructed to use our fleeting youth and beauty (gather ye rosebuds while ye may...) to secure a husband so that we may perform our second most sacred duty: bear our husband's children. 


Even as we age, we are required to play the beauty game all the same, but the rules have changed. We must be mature. Elegant. Hemlines must not be too short nor necklines too low. We must not be provocative. And if we can't be beautiful (that is, youthful), we must at least "look good for our age." 


If we cannot abide by these regulations, we then must gracefully accept that our husbands and boyfriends (I'm being heteronormative on purpose) may seek sex outside of our partnership. They may even trade us in for a younger model. Unlike men, whose wisdom and maturity are seen as desirable traits, women are judged based on the firmness and suppleness of their skin. 



Gyaru, like many other fashion subcultures born out of Japan, is a subculture made by women for women (See Gyauro for its masculine counterpart). That being said, it is not untouched by sexist ideologies.  


The main aspect of gyaru that drew me in was that it's not simply a fashion statement - it's a culture. And that culture has a pronounced contempt for what society "expects" of women. When Japanese society deemed porcelain white skin the beauty ideal, gyaru tanned. When women were expected to be modest in both dress and behavior, gyaru were loud and flashy. The gyaru mantra puts it perfectly: be wild and sexy.


You may think that a group so anti-cultural would spit in the face of these traditional and sexist ideas regarding aging and what it means to be a woman... but do they actually?


I found gyaru when I was 27. It happened like most things do these days: on the internet. I stumbled across scans of Heisei-era gyaru fashion mags like Egg, Happie Nuts, and Ageha. I became obsessed, devouring every morsel of gyaru content I could get my deco-nailed hands on.


I loved everything about it: the fashion, the culture, the camaraderie between gals. I loved how broad it was and how many substyles there were to experiment with. I loved that these girls were living their lives on their own terms, no holds barred.


However, I began to observe that most gyaru were exceptionally young. All the fashion magazines featured models between the ages of 16 and 24. Even street-style snapshots of gyaru in the wilds of Harajuku and Shibuya were all extremely youthful, hardly a day over 25.


Returning to the earlier subject of high school gals, there's a term frequently used in gyaru circles for when a gyaru decides to hang up her Alba Rosa coat for good. They graduate. 


I've observed that most gyaru aren't gyaru for life. They typically retire from the style in their late twenties in favor of a more conventional life and manner of dressing. If they still consider themselves gyaru at all, it's usually as an Onee gyaru or older sister gal, a more subdued and mature look. It is seen as the "natural" evolution for gals in their late twenties and early thirties. 


So here I was, starting my gyaru journey at the age when most graduate. What's a gal to do?


It's my most humble opinion that gyaru found me at the perfect time. I am 28 years old, and it is only now, at the tail-end of my 20s, that I feel youthful and free. My body and soul are as aligned as they have ever been.


My teenhood and most of my twenties were consumed by clinical depression, which stole whatever "prime" I was allegedly supposed to be enjoying during those tender years. I was highly suicidal, and the entirety of my days were spent trying to keep myself alive. There was no room to be wild and sexy. I was barely a functioning human. 


To then be told that I somehow missed out on the best years of my life felt like a punch to the gut. In despair, I asked myself, "If those were the best years, what horrors were to come?" 


But things got better. Little by little, and with a lot of therapy and hard work, I came out the other side. It's an ongoing battle, but not a daily fight for my life. 


I'm far happier now at 28 than I ever was at 16 or 21.


Becoming a gyaru at 27 has allowed me to reclaim my lost youth in ways both metaphorical and literal, and I don't intend to stop. It has enriched my life.


Gyaru has always been a subculture that pushed boundaries and rebelled against the social and aesthetic standards that hold us hostage. Is it not in that spirit that we continue dressing and behaving exactly how we want, regardless of age? 


I don't think one's ability to be wild and sexy somehow diminishes when they get older. Life is wild, and experience is sexy. We should not deprive ourselves of the joys of being impermanent and ever-changing beings because... what? The Old Guard says so? There's nothing more un-gyaru than bending the knee to a system or ideology that is antithetical to how YOU want to live your life. 



I get to define my beauty; I choose it. It's not something thrust upon me without my consent, nor is it conducted for male validation or attention. It is deeply personal. 


This is what gyaru means to me. 


Gyaru may have emerged, like many great subcultures do, from the creative and restless youth, but it's not synonymous with it. 


Life doesn't end after 25, and neither should gyaru. 

my 2024 gyaru challenge ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ

Hello, pumpkins! Welcome to the inaugural post of my 2024 gyaru challenge ~ 

This was an idea I've had floating in the back of my mind for about a month now, and I've finally put it into words.

It's very simple. The goal is to become the best gyaru I can be in 2024. 

In order to achieve that, I'm focusing on a few key areas. 


Goal 1: Hair

  • Build up a sizeable hairstyle repertoire
  • Settle upon a (relatively) simple to arrange "everyday" style; cut hair accordingly 
Like all of the ensuing goals, what it's going to take to achieve this one can be boiled down to a single word: practice. 

Well, maybe three: practice and repetition. Is that the same thing in this context? ('-')?

Either way, I'm going to make a concerted effort to try out new hairstyles and perfect the old ones. 

These are my main inspirations:


Side bangs, curls, layers. Yipeeee. (๑*ᗜ*)

Goal 2: Fashion

  • Continue experimenting with different styles and coordinates! 
  • Take OOTD photos and assess... what works? what doesn't? 
I want to really emphasize photo-taking because there have been so many times where I thought an outfit would look good in my head, but then I put it on and... (☉__☉”) Having photos will help me understand exactly what about an outfit doesn't work and how I can improve on it for next time. 

Like I did in my winter gyaru post, I'm going to continue breaking down outfits I like from gal magazines and putting together my own versions. 

I've been primarily doing tsuyome and agejo, but this year, I want to get into banba and ganguro! 


I love how bright and joyful the colors are. 




These platforms are to die for (✧∀✧)/

Goal 3: Make-up

  • Follow tutorials from gal magazines 
  • Experiment with different looks 
  • Practice, practice, practice!
  • Settle upon an everyday make 
I suppose this one is a little more in-depth, but at its core, it's still much the same as the others: practice and repetition. 

However, I do feel that make is one of the most (if not the most) important aspects of gal, which is why I emphasized practicing. 

I often think about this quote from Black Diamond member Harutama:

"Makeup is the most important point. Even if the hair is styled and the outfit [is] perfect, as long as the makeup is missing, you are not gyaru at all."
I would agree with her, honestly. I think it's extremely difficult to look gal without makeup and almost impossible for a gaijin gyaru like myself. 

This is the sort of look I'd like to achieve:




I've also been getting into Ranzuki magazine. I love their makeup looks!



In a lot of their tutorials, they don't seem to define their droops, and I always feel like I don't look as gyaru without mine. But I'm thinking if I maximize the other areas (outfit, nail, tan, etc.) I might be able to wear makeup like the above while still feeling gal. 

Goal 4: Nails

  • Learn how to do my own nails 
I've been doing some part-time modeling gigs while in Japan, and most of them require having short, clean nails. I love getting my nails done, but it can get quite expensive to get them on just to have them taken off again whenever I get a job. 

That's why it makes more sense to just do them myself! I recently purchased a gel set and nail tips. 

I'm not very skilled with nail art (my hands shake a lot...), so I think I'll focus on decorating and blinging them out as much as possible! 



Goal 5: Tan

  • Self-tan 
I just want to maintain a nice, summery glow. Nothing obscenely dark, of course, given that I'm quite pale to begin with. 

There's not much to say about this one. It's something that I'm going to do myself, and it's a matter of committing to the upkeep. 


Well, there you have it. 

I'm not sure if this is so much of a challenge as it is a bunch of stretch goals, but calling it a challenge makes it sound more exciting www.

I intend to update you all on my progress, labeling all further posts on the subject with the "2024 gyaru challenge" tag.

Here's to a wild and sexy 2024!!!

じゃあね !!

Lexie xx

how to: winter gyaru *̣̥☆·͙̥‧❄‧̩̥·‧•̥̩̥͙‧·‧̩̥˟͙☃˟͙‧̩̥·‧•̥̩̥͙‧·‧̩̥❄‧·͙̥̣☆*̣̥

Happy January, sweet babies!

I love January — for both obvious (it's my birthday month) and abstract (I just like the way the word looks www) reasons. 

Depending on where you are in the world, January can be a very cold time of year. It can be a bit of a challenge to dress cutely when even your eyeballs are cold. ⊙︿⊙

So, I put together some tips on how you can not ONLY be wild & sexy this winter but warm & toasty, too. (。•̀ᴗ-)✧


Back to Basics

Any good winter wardrobe can be boiled down to its base-level basics, and a gyaru winter wardrobe is no different. 

Here are some great basics to invest in:
  • tights 
  • leg warmers / arm warmers
  • thermal base tops* 
  • base layer leggings*
*The necessity of these will depend on how cold your area is, but the long and short of it is layer, layer, layer!


Adding tights to your co*de is an excellent way to still be able to wear some of your fall/spring pieces in winter (depending on how chilly it is outside!!)

I've noticed a lot of tsuyome/kuro girlies will continue wearing their hot pants in winter, just with the addition of tights. 

And on that note: don't be afraid to double up!! You can combine thicker tights with a pair of "fashion" tights (such as fishnets) on top.


If you're reading this, then you probably already know how beloved leg warmers are to a gyaru. 

Pair your leg warmers with tights and socks for extra warmth. 

tights + tall socks + leg warmers


A Big Coat

This is a given for just about any winter outfit, but a nice coat is also a definite gyaru staple.  

Depending on what substyle you ascribe to, there are plenty of options to choose from.

Tsuyome/kuro gals seem to favor puffers, leopard-print furs, military jackets, and parkas. 


Agejo gals love the silhouette of a waist-cinching pea and trench. 


This Liz Lisa A-Line and adorable ponchos are a hit among many hime gals.
 

And, of course, there's the iconic Alba Rosa blanket coat.


My reality :'(

If there's one thing to take away from this, it's that just about any coat can be gyaru if styled correctly. 

Tall Boots

While I believe that just about any style of boot is a great addition to any winter wardrobe, I am particularly fond of knee-highs/thigh-highs. 

They look great with a sweater dress, tights, and a big coat. 

Speaking of sweater dresses...

Sweaters + Sweater Dresses

As the lovely Lizzie Bee said in her own post on winter gyaru: 
Over-the-knee boots go really well with sweater dresses or skirts/shorts with chunky sweaters, which is a popular combination in the gyaru world.
She's absolutely right!! And it's such a cute combo, too. 

Cute and practical accessories

Once you've got the basic elements of your coordinate down, don't forget to accessorize! Things like scarves, ear muffs, and fuzzy hats are adorable and will keep you warm.


Winter Outfit Breakdown

This is good practice for anybody just getting into gyaru and trying to figure out what makes a gal outfit, well... a gal outfit!

Let's break down a coordinate I found on Pinterest~


You don't have to own the exact pieces from the image when recreating an outfit. The two most important things to consider are a) the color story and b) the structure of the original coordinate.

Take note of where hemlines fall, what colors are being paired together (and why they work or don't work), etc.

Of course, all bodies are different, so what might look amazing on someone else might not complement your frame. Try things out, experiment, take photos, reassess. Figure out what works and what doesn't. Trial and error, baby. 

It's a very personal experience, one that doesn't always come together right away. Keep at it!


I hope you found this helpful!! What do you plan to wear this winter?

Stay warm & well.

Talk to you soon xx

Lexie

post-Christmas shopping spree 𓂃 ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔

Hello, my lovelies!! 

Today, I went to the mall & took advantage of some really great after-Christmas sales. 

I first popped into Pink, and it was phasers set to obsession when I caught sight of these leggings: 


They're the fold-over flares that were so popular in the 2000s!! The bedazzling is a huge plus for me. I do wish Pink would make more reproductions of their original designs. What with Y2K being back in style, I'm sure they'd make a killing.  

For ages, I've been trying to source a pair of the classic leggings with the pink cheetah print waistband, but every time I find them on Depop or Mercari, they're always priced at like $100+ (╥﹏╥)

But oh well! The leggings I got today were on sale for $30, which is amazing compared to the original $55 price tag. 


A Juicy Tube for every mood and substyle. 


I recently got my very first spray tan, and I absolutely loved the results!! I want to maintain my new sun-kissed glow this winter, so I purchased some self-tanning products to bring back with me to Japan. 

I would like to keep getting spray tans, but I'll have to do some research because I'm not sure what the "spray tan scene" is even like in Japan. 

Being tan is not really en vogue at the moment, so I'm not sure how easy it's going to be to find a good spot. 

In the meantime, I'll just do it myself. (˵•̀⤙•́˵)૭



A hodgepodge of cute pinkness! The wallet is Betsey Johnson, the undies are Victoria's Secret, and the shorts are Forever 21. 


Also, I'm totally obsessed with this adorable shopping bag. 


The shorts are from American Eagle; the sweater, hoodie, and jeans are from Aéropostale. 


After shopping, I checked out a new cafe that popped up while I was out of the country. The açai bowl and iced chai I had were absolutely delicious!!




Have you guys done any shopping lately?? What did you get??

All my love,

Lexie xxx


Cute Hello Kitty Kaoani